Grief. How To Help Yourself & Someone Else.

Grief. Loss. Rejection. Painful experiences. They come in many forms and at many times throughout our life.

This post is for those, who are experiencing a sadness or loss so palpable they don’t know what to do with it, and don’t know how to ask for help.

And it’s for those who have a friend, partner or loved one going through something tough. Cause it can be really hard, to know how to support them.

I’ve actually been sitting on this post for a while. It hadn’t quite come together, until I came across the following video by Megan Devine. I invite you to watch it. You might need it now, or some time in the future. Either way, it will have a lasting affect.

When someone is deep in their loss – of any kind – you need do a couple of (quite simple) things.

Acknowledge their pain. Let their pain exist. 

Us humans, we’re fixers. We like solutions. We revel in the happy times. And often, we want to get straight back to them.

When you or someone you love is in deep suffering though, this is the worst thing you can do for them.

When we attempt to fix, advise, and move someone out of their pain – we inevitably trigger reactions of… defensiveness, misunderstanding and lack of support.

As the video so beautifully suggests, saying to someone, ‘I’m sorry that’s happening. Want to tell me about it?’, will immediately give their grief a voice, which is really all grief is asking for.

When you’re in grief – it’s bullsh!t. You hate it. It’s debilitating. It hurts. It isolates. It breaks you. You fear it’ll never leave you. 

And then… as life has it… it does start to eventually move and shift and change form (as everything does). It brings with it new wisdoms. New strength. Perspective. A softness and lightness even.

But, before it gets to this point… the grief needs to be honoured. Or rather, the soul does.

I love the quote she shares by Parker Palmer.

“The human soul doesn’t want to be advised or fixed or saved. It simply wants to be witnessed, exactly as it is”.

It simply wants to be witnessed. 

Make sure you do this for yourself too. If you’re going through something tough, whatever that version of tough is – allow yourself to be witnessed.

This awareness reminded me of why therapy sessions – of any kind – are so important and so necessary in life. They provide a safe place where the soul can be witnessed, and celebrated. No matter where it’s at.

Two ways I can support you – not to fix or take away your grief, rather to honour and give it a voice.

A Kinesiology Session.
You’ll be heard. You’ll be held. Your grief, your pain, whatever your experience – will be acknowledged. Stuck energy will be shifted, you’ll leave feeling lighter.
If you need some support, get in touch.

Meet Your Power Animal Workshop. 
Something that has supported and continues to support me when times are very human shall we say… is, I connect with and receive unconditional support from my Power Animal.

I journey. 

I connect.

I receive – unconditional love, support & guidance. 

And you can too. 

Learn this simple and sacred technique. A technique that has been used, literally, throughout the ages.

Use it. On the regular. And watch your life implode with connection and goodness. Even in the sh!t times.

I’ll be running the last workshop for the year – November 25th 9:30am – 1:30pm. $120, includes a Resonate Essence to take home. Read more here. 

And for those who have already attended the Workshop – the Drop in Class will be held 3-5pm on Sunday November 25th. 

Sent with love xo