Free love with a profit margin

 ‘A responsible attitude towards money is one in which we’re open to whatever comes, and trusting that it always will.’

– Marianne Williamson

I have my own business. I survive on me alone. It’s thrilling and rewarding and challenging and scary. I have to make money. If I don’t, then I have a problem. After having 3 weeks off over Christmas and New Year I had a couple of moments of ‘What if last year was just luck? What if the clients don’t come back?, What if I have to go back into a ‘normal job’? Panic set in and it was only through this doubt that I pulled myself together and returned to what keeps me strong – talking to the Universe and going back to what I know to be the truth. That is – to be of service and to honour this frequency instead.

It’s hard to not think about the money, it is. It’s what makes the world go round and it’s what enables me to take holidays. So it’s important. But as Marianne Williamson says in ‘A Return to Love’;

‘When we’re working solely for money, our motivation is getting rather than giving. The miraculous transformation here is a shift from a sales mentality to a service mentality. Until we make this switch, we’re operating from ego and concentrating on the things of this world rather than on love.’

I used to think this was a fine tightrope to balance upon – free love with a profit margin. I realised though through experience and proof, that the bottom line really is, intentionally be of service and the rest will look after itself. When I get into a panic after looking at my week ahead and seeing only scattered appointments booked in I consciously change the uncomfortable frequency of fear and doubt to one of trust and genuinely offering to the universe ‘show me how can I be of service’. Sure enough clients will start to email and text requesting appointments, new referrals will call me up. It happens. It does. And it fills me amazement each time.

Can it seriously be that easy though?

It’s a bit like this – sometimes when I’m in session with a client I’ll be listening so intensely that I stop hearing and feeling what’s really going on. I get stuck. And so with no where else to go I put it out there and ask for help, I ask for the universe to work it’s magic. And sure enough only a moment later something will shift and things get back on track. It’s a small reminder that when you ask for help with the intention of wanting to help someone else (AND get out of your own way) the rest unfolds effortlessly.

I’m learning to apply the same intention and level of thinking to my business.

Abundance doesn’t come from wanting to get, abundance comes from offering thanks for what you already have. It’s the gratitude that brings more of the same.

Each morning I say what I’m grateful for and ALWAYS my clients are on that list. I don’t say it because I’m scared that if I don’t they’ll go away, I say it because when I do I get this overwhelming burst of energy in my chest that puffs it up and overwhelms me with a feeling of connection and love and gratitude.

When our intention is to help people and get something back from them the energy isn’t expansive. But when we’re coming from a place of purity and authenticity and wanting to be there for our fellow brother and sister it’s where divinity truly intervenes.

Gaby Bernstein had once said in an interview that when she feels low or disconnected from life she immediately reaches out and helps someone. She then feels back in sync with life.

I feel honoured beyond belief that I get to do the work I do. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not totally peachy, there are a lot of evenings I’m drained and exhausted beyond belief, unable to connect with anyone, including myself. But when I think back over the day and I think of the faces that arrived in the sessions compared to the ones that left, well it warms my heart. I understand this deeply, because I know what it feels like to receive help in this way. Which is why it means so much to me to be in a position to offer it.

Being of service to others, regardless of the way you do it, is the reason we are all here. We are connected. We are all one. By helping one another we are helping ourselves and the common good.

‘The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others’

– Gandhi.

So what does it mean to be of service?

It means compassion. It means having an open heart. A genuinely open heart. It means acknowledging when you are operating with an ulterior motive. It means getting over yourself and putting others before you. It means seeing yourself reflected back and witnessing it with love and appreciation and understanding – not judgement.

I know the times I think, ‘yep this is how much money I’m going to make’ and ‘this is how I am going to market the next lot of clients etc’ that the Universe responds by clients rearranging or cancelling, but when I return to a place of, ‘how can I be of service, send me those who I can work with and learn from and share your message with’ – those are the weeks where everything is effortless.

‘No one has ever become poor by giving’

– Anne Frank

I want to be of service. I want to help. I want to share what I know.

I invite you to see what happens when you do things for someone else with the unconditional intention of just wanting to help. Not wanting anything in return.

Then stand back and witness the magic unfold.

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