Wanna know how to find inner peace?

I’ve been seeing a Coach + Kinesiologist (a couple in fact) for the past 5 years. On and off. And what surfaces in most sessions is a common theme. The topics, the people, the situations change, but the theme, it remains the same.

Detachment!

Detach from the outcome, let go of expectations, release the need to know and release the belief that life should look different to what the Universe is currently offering. 

But things have started to shift. I can’t pinpoint exactly when it started, I really can’t, but it has. And the reason I know it has, is because I’m in flow, I’m less phased about life, I’m neither high nor low, I’m balanced (as balanced as one can be) and it feels good.

And so it got me thinking about what led me to this point.

• As I’ve said, I’ve been doing coaching + kinesiology on and off for the past 5 years. I work closely with 2 kinesiologists + a business coach and I work on myself – a lot. I take responsibility for myself. I sit with my stuff. I analyse a lot less than I used to. I instead choose to observe myself, I monitor my ego and I tune into my higher self. Have a read here on HOW to do this.

• I kept with the Kinesiology. Sometimes it can feel like we’re getting nowhere. Going around in circles. Same patterns. Same themes. But like Dave my Kinesiologist said, ‘it pains me to see just how close some of my clients get to true freedom when they suddenly think I’ve done enough and quit. Just before the big shift occurs!’ You can’t tell a client what to do. It’s their journey, it’s their choice. But he was onto something. I often wonder about the strength of the ego in influencing us to quit just before the big break through.

• In keeping with the constant Coaching + Kinesiology sessions it made for a rough few months! And when I say a few, I mean many. For those of you who have followed me for a while you’ll know I’ve experienced some serious bouts of loneliness and solitude this past year. It’s been an intense year of reflection, introspection and removal from the things that used to satisfy. This caused me a lot of pain at first – because I was attached to an outcome. I thought life should be different. It was only in realising that everything was perfect even what I deemed it imperfect, that peace started to follow.

• I started to live and breathe ‘No where to go, nothing to do. Rather, just something to do‘. Check out my previous post on this. This helps me keep perspective and broadens it. Often when we’re so close and so attached to the way we think things should be it’s hard for us to gain the perspective that serves us!

‘When people thought the world was flat, it wasn’t that their thinking was distorted, (The data that they were collecting gave them that information.) it was that they were not broadsighted enough to step back far enough to see the big picture. And that’s what we see with so many of you: You are so close to the reality that you are creating, that you sometimes can’t see the bigger picture.’

– Abraham

• I meditate daily. This helps. Enormously. And I move. I walk, I jog (not for very long, but sometimes my legs insist – move faster), I stretch and I hold.

• I have a daily ritual of saying my gratitudes, tuning into what I trust and tapping into my feelings. I do this each morning.

‘The reason you want every single thing that you want, is because you think that you will feel really good when you get there.  But, if you don’t feel good on your way to there, you can’t get there.  You have to be satisfied with what-is while you’re reaching for more’.

Abraham-Hicks, Jerry & Esther Hicks.

The things I’ve listed above are what I believe to have helped me reach this point of flow and peace. And believe me when I say some days are better than others. And the triggers are always there. BUT, the ability to manage them is definitely different.

In my 32 years to date I’ve never felt so centred, so connected, so at peace as I do now. I’m proud, pleased, honoured and grateful to be feeling satisfied with the what-is while I’m reaching for more. Because at the end of the day, we’re always reaching for more, in the mean time though life is A OK.

‘The best you can do for anyone is to thrive fully and be willing to explain to anyone who asks how it is that you are thriving, and what it is that you’ve discovered—and then, just relax and trust that all truly is well’.

Abraham